Brooke Shields Opens Up About Her Experience With ‘Mom-Shaming’

Brooke Shields is not here for mom-shaming.

On Wednesday, January 15, the actress and model, 59, appeared on The Kelly Clarkson Show to talk about her new memories Brooke Shields Can’t Get Old: Thoughts on Aging as a Woman and her own experience of motherhood.

Shields, who shares daughters Rowan, 21, and Grier, 18, with husband Chris Henchy, told host Kelly Clarkson that she has witnessed mothers shaming other mothers.

When the “Piece By Piece” singer suggested that “moms have a harder time shaming ourselves, almost more than other moms,” the writer disagreed.

“But I think we do it like, ‘Oh, is this how you want to do it?’ she said with a disapproving look on her face.

“I’ve heard that,” Shields continued. “And everybody’s like, you know, ‘the diapers and this and that.’ Everyone, it’s not a competition.”

The actress went on to suggest “maybe I don’t understand the full meaning” of mom-shaming and asked: “Is that judging them?”

Clarkson replied: “I feel like that would be mum-shaming. I don’t hang out with those women, so I’ll be voted off the island very quickly.”

Addressing another way women experience judgment about motherhood, Shields said they “get shamed if they’re actually very clear that they don’t want kids, and sometimes it makes them a pariah.”

Ultimately, she said she doesn’t want “someone to tell me how to mother.”

“I want to see how someone does that, which I respect, and then ask them, or say, ‘Hey, that’s how I noticed your kid did that. That’s really cool. How did you get them to do it?’ “Shields added.

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The talk show host brought the topic to a more personal note. “I also think there’s mom shooting at ourselves. Or maybe it’s to blame,” she said.

Shields agreed, adding, “You know, it’s, ‘You spend too much time on your career and on the show, and that makes you a bad mom.'” “I’m not enough.” I miss a football game and it’s because ‘I’m Brooke Shields’ and then they shame you for it.”

While promoting her book at an event on Jan. 14, Shields revealed that she’s wary of giving advice when it comes to difficult situations, as “you can’t really know how to go through someone else’s experience” — and she said she learned it from her two daughters.

“And I learned a lot from my kids for that, too, because Grier will say, ‘Mom, don’t try to fix this. Just listen to me,'” she said. “And I’ll just sit on my hands and I’ll bite my tongue and then I’ll try ‘Well, why do you think you reacted that way?’

“And she’s like, ‘Oh mom, please.’ And then there’s subtitles there, so I know to meet them differently when you find out one and the next one is completely different,” Shields added.

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